If there is one thing that the enemy has truly succeded in utilising as a weapon in rendering men impotent in family life and the world at large, it is SEX. Yes, that three letter word has become a snare used to entrap countless men and ruin God’s plans for their lives. All through history, we have seen sex determine the destiny of nations. We have seen sex lead to wars and reduce mighty men to mere mice. Dealing with sexual immorality in one’s life therefore becomes a matter of grave concern because one never knows when its consequences will rear their ugly heads. If left unattended to, untamed sexual appetites become the stench that refuse to go away.
As humans, we are wired by God to enjoy sex. However, for our own good, He commands us to limit our sexual activities to the safe confines of marriage. The enemy knows how much we enoy sex and he will do everything possible to ensure we disobey God in this area so we become vulnerable to hurts and issues.
Ignoring an unhealthy sexual appetite and hoping that marriage will become a magic pill that will cure the problem is a major issue. Sex outside of marriage gives rise to a host of other sinful habits in an individual. Take a hypothetical young single lady for example. She’s dating a young man with an unhealthy appetite for sex. He begins pressurising her to fornicate with him. At first her resolve is firm but each time she goes closer to the edge of her self-imposed boundaries. Whenever she gets home from a date, her parents ask how the date was and she simply replies ‘it was fine’, forgetting to inform them of her long passionate kisses and physical fondling with her boyfriend. The attitude of lying is born in her heart. With more and more lies, she becomes less remorseful about her dishonesty and her integrity is up in smokes. Years later she is married to this guy but the ‘thrill’ that comes with sexual immorality isn’t there because it is now officially allowed in the marriage context. Her man is now deceived into thinking he is no longer in love with her simply because that unhealthy appetite he developed in the early years are no longer being fed. So what next? He may turn to pornography in order to satisfy his appetite. Worse still, he may take this further and have an affair because he gets that thrill when he meets up with another woman. Remember that lying and lacking integrity were developed into his character from earlier on so an affair is not that far-fetched.
Sooner or later, he either asks for a divorce because he is now wrongly associating unhealthy sexual feelings with love or he confesses to his wife and wants to save his marriage. It may ruin his image in society, the respect of his children, his career, his health and so on. The consequences are far reaching and if you want some recent big name examples of men that have fallen victim to this then look no further than Tiger Woods, Arnold Schwarzenegger and IMF head Dominique Strauss-Kahn. These are three men who were destined for great things but the the stench that refuses to go away has finally caught up with them because they refused to deal with sexual sin earlier on in their lives.
If you are caught up in such activities right now then I hope you will realise it is never too late to start doing the right thing. You can’t hide a foul smell forever. Sooner or later it will be exposed. God can set you free if you allow Him. Flee from sexual immorality and reach your full potential as a person. See it for what it is. A trap designed to bring you down.